So Im out walking my dog, early afternoon, thinking of my last post, when it dawned on me:
how do we fall out of love? Of course peple get treated like shit by who they thought was the
'love of their life' blah blah blah all that crap and so on. But what is the point that makes that one defining point in time where you see the person that you so madly loved maked you wan to throw up or in some cases just gently put your fingers in their eyebals and sweetly feel like wanting to tear their face off their head-always lovingly ofcourse, we are not animals!
Is it as simple as: you were treated like crap, so you started to dislike him or her?
We get treated like shit everyday. Surrounded by people who for some like my downstairs neighbour, I believe might have escaped cuckoo's nest, by that does not make me experience feelings like the ones I have described above!
So what is it about romantic love that makes so many wonderful feelings turn into something so negative, into something taken out of the 'the war of the Roses' !!!
How come any other relationship hasn't got the same aftershock effect on us?
Or is it that it is so intensely good at the begining that it just works like a boomerang when it turns bad?
It is funny how romantic relationships have the craziest effects on us-both good and bad.
They seem to create the strongest feelings like love or jealousy or you tend to become posessive at times.
My interest is what makes us go from one end, which is total love for the other person to passing him or her in the street and have either no feelings for the person you were so intimate with once, or in the worst case scenario, see them with their new 'amore' and want to throw stones at them. Ofcourse I may be exadurating just to stress the point Im trying to make but the focus is how do we fall out of love, rather than 'crazy bicth practices after a bad brake up' which come to think about it could make an interesting book title.
How is it that the person we once loved has become unloved? Honestly, I don't think it is as simple as 's/he didnt treat me right'. What happens and what are the processes we go through to dissarm our feelings for another once so important to us? We face bad attitudes everyday- at work, school, uni. Even amongst friends we tend to have misunderstandings and fights but these don't seem to have such effects on us.
I find hard to believe that we have an internal switch like machines which we use when breaking up cause unlike machines, people have feelings, perception and some let me say are highly unpredictable - so how can we stop feeling something for someone we fell a lot about? Or even worse how can such good feelings turn to become the exact opposite at times?
What is the internal force driving this process? Is it a simple answer as I was treated bad? Is that enough or is it so simple to fall out of love?
how do we fall out of love? Of course peple get treated like shit by who they thought was the
'love of their life' blah blah blah all that crap and so on. But what is the point that makes that one defining point in time where you see the person that you so madly loved maked you wan to throw up or in some cases just gently put your fingers in their eyebals and sweetly feel like wanting to tear their face off their head-always lovingly ofcourse, we are not animals!Is it as simple as: you were treated like crap, so you started to dislike him or her?
We get treated like shit everyday. Surrounded by people who for some like my downstairs neighbour, I believe might have escaped cuckoo's nest, by that does not make me experience feelings like the ones I have described above!
So what is it about romantic love that makes so many wonderful feelings turn into something so negative, into something taken out of the 'the war of the Roses' !!!
How come any other relationship hasn't got the same aftershock effect on us?
Or is it that it is so intensely good at the begining that it just works like a boomerang when it turns bad?
It is funny how romantic relationships have the craziest effects on us-both good and bad.
They seem to create the strongest feelings like love or jealousy or you tend to become posessive at times.
My interest is what makes us go from one end, which is total love for the other person to passing him or her in the street and have either no feelings for the person you were so intimate with once, or in the worst case scenario, see them with their new 'amore' and want to throw stones at them. Ofcourse I may be exadurating just to stress the point Im trying to make but the focus is how do we fall out of love, rather than 'crazy bicth practices after a bad brake up' which come to think about it could make an interesting book title.
How is it that the person we once loved has become unloved? Honestly, I don't think it is as simple as 's/he didnt treat me right'. What happens and what are the processes we go through to dissarm our feelings for another once so important to us? We face bad attitudes everyday- at work, school, uni. Even amongst friends we tend to have misunderstandings and fights but these don't seem to have such effects on us.
I find hard to believe that we have an internal switch like machines which we use when breaking up cause unlike machines, people have feelings, perception and some let me say are highly unpredictable - so how can we stop feeling something for someone we fell a lot about? Or even worse how can such good feelings turn to become the exact opposite at times?
What is the internal force driving this process? Is it a simple answer as I was treated bad? Is that enough or is it so simple to fall out of love?
it 's more complicated. Many many tiny details that we don't notice when we re IN love but are gathered somewhere in a locked part of the brain. When we stop seeing someone and get that distance, those tiny details are unlocked, become more noticeable and "release the Kracken"!!!!!!!!!!!!! :p
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