People generally see what they look for and hear what they listen for
(to kill a mocking bird).
Ever wondered why things that appear criminal to us seem to leave others uninterested?
Perception is the ultimate example of how subjectivism exists in our every day lives.
For example vegans and vegetarians cannot understand how people who eat meat are guilt free if they know how animals have been treated before killed and packaged,
On the other hand those who do eat meat do think that it is cruel to kill animals but believe it is vital for their diet therefore that need is superior to the animal's wellfare.
Perception is very interesting to look at in personal and professional relationships.
We often see how people in relationships who have a totally different view, or rather perception, get angry, offended etc for different things and don't realise often why the other person gets angry or upset with certain behaviours.
At work for example we see how people see it is ok to ask collegues personal questions as they don't seem to see it as offensive where it can be actually pretty rude.
Perception is a result of many factors eg: personal, experiential, social etc. We see how women have different perceptions of what is required to be done in order to have a succesful relationship whereas men's views differ.
We also see that culture can have an effect on the perception of people. What is acceptable in one country is not in another.
But perception can cause many problems most probably in communication in interpersonal communication. This includes all types of relationships.
We see how generations are in constant conflict in ideological issues and how big generation gaps can be huge. It is often that we see parents that do not understand their childrens needs and consider funny or unimportant what their children do.
But I have often found that perception is linked to relativity. How see things is relative for each of us. Things that we see as good eg a meal might not be for someone else. I always find interesting when someone says words to me such as : good, bad, hot, cold, beautiful, how I get different answers from different people. This is why things are relative for each of us.
My favourite and most obvious example of different perceptions is the half full/empty glass.
Some see it as full others as empty. This is a very easy example of how different people can see things differently.
Perception though is much more complex that whether a glass is half full or not. If perception differs so much in terms of the glass imagine how much more complex it may be in interaction.
Perception and relativity as much as it can be a reason for creating many problems can also be vital in our lives.
Imagine a world where we all see things in the same way, think in the same way.
Every single relationship we would create
would look like a repetition of the last,
We have friends which we value amongst all for the unique way which they see things and their views which we usually ask for their opinion and advice.
Imagine how flat the world would feel if we were all the same. This does not create happines. Being the same does not ensure a better world as the sickness that is implanted inside of us would be so much greater.
Think of how perception can make all people dislike one person and vice versa. If all people liked the same things, rejected the same things, and if all negative traits within a personality were present in all people.
However many issues the subjectivity within perception creates, it is an unavoidable factor which does make life a little more interesting.
Imagine going out on a first date? If all people shared a perception that would not make them very interesting to meet as you would allready know what they are like.
How much fun does this take out of meeting a new person for the first time, dicovering them and discovering you with them?
However many issues difference in perception may create, it equally not only resolves others but makes the world much more interesting in our every day interactions and experiencing people.
Except when we meet arseholes - in that case you just want to wack them.
picture source: http://peterskeltonnlpcoach.com/is-your-glass-half-empty-or-half-full/istock_000014644345xsmall-glass-half-full/
http://yoga-sutra-comment-eng.blogspot.gr/2013/06/samadhi-assemblage-point-and-gestalt.html
http://www.riskmanagementmonitor.com/author-dan-gardner-talks-risk-decisions-and-psychology-at-the-2012-rims-canada-conference/
(to kill a mocking bird).
Ever wondered why things that appear criminal to us seem to leave others uninterested?
Perception is the ultimate example of how subjectivism exists in our every day lives.
For example vegans and vegetarians cannot understand how people who eat meat are guilt free if they know how animals have been treated before killed and packaged,
On the other hand those who do eat meat do think that it is cruel to kill animals but believe it is vital for their diet therefore that need is superior to the animal's wellfare.
Perception is very interesting to look at in personal and professional relationships.
We often see how people in relationships who have a totally different view, or rather perception, get angry, offended etc for different things and don't realise often why the other person gets angry or upset with certain behaviours.At work for example we see how people see it is ok to ask collegues personal questions as they don't seem to see it as offensive where it can be actually pretty rude.
Perception is a result of many factors eg: personal, experiential, social etc. We see how women have different perceptions of what is required to be done in order to have a succesful relationship whereas men's views differ.
We also see that culture can have an effect on the perception of people. What is acceptable in one country is not in another.
But perception can cause many problems most probably in communication in interpersonal communication. This includes all types of relationships.
We see how generations are in constant conflict in ideological issues and how big generation gaps can be huge. It is often that we see parents that do not understand their childrens needs and consider funny or unimportant what their children do.
But I have often found that perception is linked to relativity. How see things is relative for each of us. Things that we see as good eg a meal might not be for someone else. I always find interesting when someone says words to me such as : good, bad, hot, cold, beautiful, how I get different answers from different people. This is why things are relative for each of us.
My favourite and most obvious example of different perceptions is the half full/empty glass.
Some see it as full others as empty. This is a very easy example of how different people can see things differently.Perception though is much more complex that whether a glass is half full or not. If perception differs so much in terms of the glass imagine how much more complex it may be in interaction.
Perception and relativity as much as it can be a reason for creating many problems can also be vital in our lives.
Imagine a world where we all see things in the same way, think in the same way.
Every single relationship we would create
would look like a repetition of the last,
We have friends which we value amongst all for the unique way which they see things and their views which we usually ask for their opinion and advice.Imagine how flat the world would feel if we were all the same. This does not create happines. Being the same does not ensure a better world as the sickness that is implanted inside of us would be so much greater.
Think of how perception can make all people dislike one person and vice versa. If all people liked the same things, rejected the same things, and if all negative traits within a personality were present in all people.
However many issues the subjectivity within perception creates, it is an unavoidable factor which does make life a little more interesting.
Imagine going out on a first date? If all people shared a perception that would not make them very interesting to meet as you would allready know what they are like.
How much fun does this take out of meeting a new person for the first time, dicovering them and discovering you with them?
However many issues difference in perception may create, it equally not only resolves others but makes the world much more interesting in our every day interactions and experiencing people.
Except when we meet arseholes - in that case you just want to wack them.
picture source: http://peterskeltonnlpcoach.com/is-your-glass-half-empty-or-half-full/istock_000014644345xsmall-glass-half-full/
http://yoga-sutra-comment-eng.blogspot.gr/2013/06/samadhi-assemblage-point-and-gestalt.html
http://www.riskmanagementmonitor.com/author-dan-gardner-talks-risk-decisions-and-psychology-at-the-2012-rims-canada-conference/
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