People usually after a long term relationship break up would tell you that you should grieve it and it is a process and that you have to do this in order to feel better and that you should go through this if you want to get over it.
WRONG!
Really? You would want to spend even 1 more second on something that just ended?
You either broke it off cause it wasn't going anywhere or you were dumped. In either case why would you want to spend any longer feeling like crap for the person who did not appreciate you and did not care about and dumped you or spend time thinking of that couch potato which was a hunk when you met but did not care enough to look good for you so they just started trying to make an ass print on the couch. And this goes both ways for men and women. So I think this is what you should do after break up:
1) let go of that anger:
whether it is for being dumped or spending time with someone not worth it.
you can throw darts at their picture and you can actually hang earrings from them after and call it art in case the ex comes by to pick up some clothes. Of course singing songs like Alanis Morissett's you out to know
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPcyTyilmYY) certainly reinforce the getting over the ex process. I'm sure you can find many like this on you tube.
2) Mentally block the ex:
try to block out all the good times or the bad times which ever works for you. Some people feel good to think of the good times and not feel it was all a total loss but others prefer to think of the bad times in order to believe what an ass hole their ex was. This includes jealousy scenes, being cut off from your friends etc. After you have though of that try to block them out as they never did exist by remembering or trying to remember what it was like before them-usually you ll discover there is a life without them and remember a time that you were actually having fun. Don't fall into the trap of thinking what it was like when you first met. As soon as you find yourself doing that just think of sheep or anything that is irrelevant.
3) Don't block him from your social network accounts:
Why? Cause this is your chance to show there is life after your break up - of course it would be better
if you would get of your butt and do fun stuff rather than fake posting on facebook you are having fun but still it should help to make you feel better.
4) Shopping therapy:
Not any kind of shopping though - start of with underwear for you guys and lingerie for you ladies.
You might not need it straight away but you have to be prepared! Think of it as sending of vibes!
5) Do everything you missed out on:
Usually people give up on the stuff they most like doing whether it is watching football with friends drinking beers for the guys of having free time to gossip go out with friends and shopping for women. This is your chance to do all this stuff you have given up so long!
6) Create:
There is nothing better than a creative hobby to keep you occupied. I find myself feeling a lot better when I do something creative. It works as psychotherapy!
7) Have fun:
If you are one of those people who feel guilty flirting (and I mean just flirting) with the opposite sex when are in a relationship this is your chance to flirt again - it can only make you feel better and it doesn't necessarily mean having to give out your tel number if you are not ready to start seeing people again. Make sure you don't start feeling insecure though - that is a trap!
8) Look after yourself:
You should always look after yourself whether in or not in a relationship for different reasons. I recently read a nice ecard that said always dress like you ll see your worst nightmare. It is almost a certainty that the one time you will look like shit you ll bump into your ex. their friends or family - this is not a good confidence boost for you and it will make you feel even more crap than you did before.
9) Try smiling:
There is nothing better for you to feel good and nothing worse for your enemies than for you to smile.
Now I realise this is hard to do if you have spent the past month depressed and in tears so please try not to do the crazy smile and look like this:
This will make you look loony and unattractive and it isn't something you want.
So... I hope this was helpful......
WRONG!
Really? You would want to spend even 1 more second on something that just ended?
You either broke it off cause it wasn't going anywhere or you were dumped. In either case why would you want to spend any longer feeling like crap for the person who did not appreciate you and did not care about and dumped you or spend time thinking of that couch potato which was a hunk when you met but did not care enough to look good for you so they just started trying to make an ass print on the couch. And this goes both ways for men and women. So I think this is what you should do after break up:
1) let go of that anger:
whether it is for being dumped or spending time with someone not worth it.
you can throw darts at their picture and you can actually hang earrings from them after and call it art in case the ex comes by to pick up some clothes. Of course singing songs like Alanis Morissett's you out to know
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPcyTyilmYY) certainly reinforce the getting over the ex process. I'm sure you can find many like this on you tube.
2) Mentally block the ex:
try to block out all the good times or the bad times which ever works for you. Some people feel good to think of the good times and not feel it was all a total loss but others prefer to think of the bad times in order to believe what an ass hole their ex was. This includes jealousy scenes, being cut off from your friends etc. After you have though of that try to block them out as they never did exist by remembering or trying to remember what it was like before them-usually you ll discover there is a life without them and remember a time that you were actually having fun. Don't fall into the trap of thinking what it was like when you first met. As soon as you find yourself doing that just think of sheep or anything that is irrelevant.
3) Don't block him from your social network accounts:
Why? Cause this is your chance to show there is life after your break up - of course it would be better
if you would get of your butt and do fun stuff rather than fake posting on facebook you are having fun but still it should help to make you feel better.
4) Shopping therapy:
Not any kind of shopping though - start of with underwear for you guys and lingerie for you ladies.
You might not need it straight away but you have to be prepared! Think of it as sending of vibes!
5) Do everything you missed out on:
Usually people give up on the stuff they most like doing whether it is watching football with friends drinking beers for the guys of having free time to gossip go out with friends and shopping for women. This is your chance to do all this stuff you have given up so long!
6) Create:
There is nothing better than a creative hobby to keep you occupied. I find myself feeling a lot better when I do something creative. It works as psychotherapy!
7) Have fun:
If you are one of those people who feel guilty flirting (and I mean just flirting) with the opposite sex when are in a relationship this is your chance to flirt again - it can only make you feel better and it doesn't necessarily mean having to give out your tel number if you are not ready to start seeing people again. Make sure you don't start feeling insecure though - that is a trap!
8) Look after yourself:
You should always look after yourself whether in or not in a relationship for different reasons. I recently read a nice ecard that said always dress like you ll see your worst nightmare. It is almost a certainty that the one time you will look like shit you ll bump into your ex. their friends or family - this is not a good confidence boost for you and it will make you feel even more crap than you did before.
9) Try smiling:
There is nothing better for you to feel good and nothing worse for your enemies than for you to smile.
This will make you look loony and unattractive and it isn't something you want.
So... I hope this was helpful......
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