Guilt......
Why? Why is it that people do things that turn out to be against their conscience?
It is interesting how we first do something on impulse or out of spite and then regret it and feel guilty, probabl, well normal people do anyway, can't sleep etc etc.
This is a very interesting post for me to writte because I have been fortunate enough to be guilt-free most
of my life! This ofcourse meant a lot of doing 'the right thing' so I avoided experiencing guilt to the minimum at least which I must say is quite a fucking waste of time. People are never happy anyway always asking more of you.
Having said that, I must say I have met lots of guilt free people - does that mean they were so ethical or nice?
NOOOOOOOO. Just arseholes. Insensitive, arogant, don't give a shit about no one else but themselves arseholes who could cause pain to others and hear them snore 5 mins later.
So I wonder. Are they lucky or just inhumane?
How many times have I asked myself how nice would it be not to care so much what other think
or say or feel but guess what?
There's a balance people-doesn't have to be one or the other.
So how do you do that? Well I treated others as I would like to be treated BUT treated 'them as they did me!
So Im nice but wont get scrued over either.
It still is though a wonder how many people are the exact opposite to the insensitive guiltless people - they are the other extreme. The ones that feel guilty for no reason most of the time and always try not to step on toes and are constantly trying to please others quite often out of insecurity as to be liked.
I know a few of those too-always asking if they said or did something that made you angry or caused you any kind of unpleasant feeling!
Balance people - the answer is balance - again, doesn't have to be one or the other cause as we know there are a lot of people who will never be happy or pleased with anything you do!
I have always found to guilt to be coming from our own morals and ethic codes. It is through our standards we see something as good or bad and the according behaviour so when we do something against what we think as good manners or behaviour we feel guilty.
I have seen this change with generations as their ethics codes change. For example my mum might feel guilty for things I wouldn't- I find what people consider as good or bad to be linked quite often to their level of guilt.
Of course this is just some food for thought!
Why? Why is it that people do things that turn out to be against their conscience?
It is interesting how we first do something on impulse or out of spite and then regret it and feel guilty, probabl, well normal people do anyway, can't sleep etc etc.
This is a very interesting post for me to writte because I have been fortunate enough to be guilt-free mostof my life! This ofcourse meant a lot of doing 'the right thing' so I avoided experiencing guilt to the minimum at least which I must say is quite a fucking waste of time. People are never happy anyway always asking more of you.
Having said that, I must say I have met lots of guilt free people - does that mean they were so ethical or nice?
NOOOOOOOO. Just arseholes. Insensitive, arogant, don't give a shit about no one else but themselves arseholes who could cause pain to others and hear them snore 5 mins later.
So I wonder. Are they lucky or just inhumane?
How many times have I asked myself how nice would it be not to care so much what other think
or say or feel but guess what?
There's a balance people-doesn't have to be one or the other.
So how do you do that? Well I treated others as I would like to be treated BUT treated 'them as they did me!
So Im nice but wont get scrued over either.
It still is though a wonder how many people are the exact opposite to the insensitive guiltless people - they are the other extreme. The ones that feel guilty for no reason most of the time and always try not to step on toes and are constantly trying to please others quite often out of insecurity as to be liked.
I know a few of those too-always asking if they said or did something that made you angry or caused you any kind of unpleasant feeling!
Balance people - the answer is balance - again, doesn't have to be one or the other cause as we know there are a lot of people who will never be happy or pleased with anything you do!
I have always found to guilt to be coming from our own morals and ethic codes. It is through our standards we see something as good or bad and the according behaviour so when we do something against what we think as good manners or behaviour we feel guilty.
I have seen this change with generations as their ethics codes change. For example my mum might feel guilty for things I wouldn't- I find what people consider as good or bad to be linked quite often to their level of guilt.
Of course this is just some food for thought!
